She was passing by him with her group of classmates, just the moment when she was near him, she looked at him and quickly moved away to avoid anyone’s eyes. On the other hand he was with his classmates and being so closely monitored by them couldn’t hide his blush on the deep dusky young face.
March 9, 2023
She was passing by him with her group of classmates, just the moment when she was near him, she looked at him and quickly moved away to avoid anyone’s eyes. On the other hand he was with his classmates and being so closely monitored by them couldn’t hide his blush on the deep dusky young face.
Both were in their final year of high school, possibly the love story blossomed somewhere during the middle school years. Years later battling all the impediments, restrictions, differences, threats from family and society they successfully started living together as man and woman.
The love grew as years passed by and three decades flew by, the love story was in picture always with the PDAs and love quotes of never ending love always on the social media.
One of the days a casual talk on how people change when in love and not in love seemed to spring up with an acquaintance. I happened to mention that love does exist even after three decades and gave the example of the above couple. However, I was in for a shock when the acquaintance mentioned that the couple's life has developed a crack. Upon further discussion it came to light that the couple were at loggerheads with each other.
The entire sweetness of the love changed to an ugly spate. Wellwishers did intrude and made a somewhat kind of patch up between them.
Things were no longer the same. Love is indeed a beautiful emotion, a sense of being wanted, brings out the best side of you. However, when this love is shaken, then many unpleasant things began to surface.
Why does love after all lose its flavour? Is it that we get into things unknowingly, which may threaten to pull the curtains down on a beautiful bond?
Let’s take a look at some of the reasons why people fall out of love
Lack of communication
When in love people talk about almost everything, finding the 24 hour time so short. However, in certain situations, the communication can wither and this can go unnoticed.
Taking each other for granted
Over a period of time, paying compliments or giving attention to each other starts to fade away. There can also be a blame game among the partners and love can grow cold.
Picking on each others insecurities
When the love part vanishes, then we get to see that the partners began to feed on each other's insecurities. The blame game starts.
Boredom sets in
The choices come in and then they suddenly start realizing that love is no longer the same as it used to be, infact there’s a sense of boredom actively running through.
You are not the same person
Well this must be the most common dialogue which we would get to hear from all couples who argue, saying that the partner is no longer the same person they fell in love with.
Grudges and Resentments
There is nothing worse than holding on to grudges and resentments. Somehow, the concept of “forgive and forget” takes a back seat
Love wasn't’ really love
Sometimes, there’s a possibility that we are on a rebound or it’s just an attraction toward that individual, which is mistaken as love. When the reality dawns then we understand that, afterall it wasn’t love.
Are there ways that love can be kept fresh and renewed? Well, lets take a look at some of the tips to keep the love going
Deepen the passion
Both partners need to deepen the passion in their relationship, rather than one pulling the boat alone. Deepen the depth of your connection.
Practice appreciation and acceptance
To appreciate anyone will boost their self esteem and confidence and inturn they become more positive in a relationship. Accept them for who they are.
Use the word “we”
This brings about a sense of togetherness, between both the partners. The bond increases.
Acknowledge
Acknowledge when you talk to each other.
Communicate
Even if it is silly, always communicate and share things that enhance the bond between relationships.
Trust
Trust is the most important and vital ingredient of any relationship. The more transparent the better.
Love is a beautiful thing, falling love is wonderful, however, one must realize that there are certain healthy boundaries that need to be kept in mind. Also, one must pay attention that the relationship is not toxic. Live, love and laugh…..let your life transform happily,
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